Noble Characters – Pam

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A few years ago, my friend and I were talking about Proverbs 31: 10-31. This is the passage that describes the “virtuous wife” or “wife of noble character”. My friend told me that she had never read those verses.

I just looked at her, a bit perplexed. This was a woman who had been studying the Bible her entire life and who exemplified so many of the traits described in the section, yet she had never read it.

“Why not?”

“Because I don’t think I could measure up.”

She and I talked about how the passage wasn’t written to intimidate, but was instead written as a way of praising strong, brave, determined women. It was originally written as a poem, an acrostic describing excellence.

I am not sure how my friend feels about the passage now. I should probably ask her. But I do know that there are many women out there that do still feel intimidated by that particular piece of poetry. They feel as if it is a job description that is impossible to fulfill, and read that passage with a sense of shame.

This makes me sad, because it is not meant to shame. It is meant to encourage.

I have even heard it said that there are no real women who are like that, that no person in the 21st Century would act that way.

Here, I beg to differ.

I have the distinct honor of knowing several incredible women. They are women I greatly admire, and they encourage and inspire me daily.

They are noble characters, and I am going to tell you about them. Not all at once. That would make for a REALLY long blog post.

Instead, today I am starting a new series here on my blog. Each post will focus on a different section of the Proverbs 31 passage. I will tell you about my friend or friends that come to mind when I read each particular section, and why.

You are going to meet some incredible people.

They are not perfect, but they are wonderful. They are real. And I am honored to know them.

To begin with, let’s focus on Proverbs 31:10:

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

When I read this verse, I immediately think of my sister-in-law, Pam.


I have known Pam since I was 12 years old. At that time, she was pretty much the coolest person I knew. She was outgoing, pretty, funny, and she let me borrow her clothes.

Pam was also incredibly blunt. She was not afraid to tell me the things that I needed to hear – the things that other people were afraid to say.

Almost 21 years ago, Pam, in all of her bluntness, turned to my then “friend” David and said, “So what’s the deal? Are you her boyfriend or what?”

David then turned to me and said, “So I just told Pam I was your boyfriend. Is that okay?”

This year David and I will celebrate 20 years of marriage.

That, my friends, is just one of the many, many things that Pam has done to make my life better.

After all of these years of friendship, she is still one of the coolest people I know. She is still outgoing, pretty, and funny, and she still lets me borrow her clothes.

What I admire most about Pam is her heart for God, for my brother, for her daughters, and for the rest of her family. I know that my brother would not be the man he is today, or in the position that he is in today, without her.

And for that I am eternally grateful.

Pam is fiercely loyal, and I know that she will always have my back. Sometimes having my back means calling me up and asking if she needs to come and fight someone, and sometimes that means calling me up and saying, “Sister, I love you, but take a moment and step back.” Either way, I know she is looking out for me.

And for that I am eternally grateful.

Pam and I used to sing in a choir together. I sat next to her, and she always sang the notes right in my ear. She has an incredible voice, and I knew that as long as I was listening to her, I would be fine.

In a very similar way, Pam’s voice is still in my head. Whether she’s reminding me to choose joy, pray faithfully, or say it straight, I know that as long as I listen to her, I will be fine.

Pam is a woman of noble character. She is my sister. She is my friend.

And for that I am eternally grateful.

See you soon.


2 thoughts on “Noble Characters – Pam

    Patricia Webster sanders said:
    January 24, 2017 at 6:17 pm

    Once again well done!! You have an amazing gift for writing- 😍😍. Love you!

      Jane Rodda responded:
      January 24, 2017 at 6:24 pm

      Thank you! This was an easy one to write!

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